Tick, tick, tock...

'Round the clock on any chosen day, I'd bet you need less time with your significant other, than originally believed. And hopefully, whenever that epiphany came to light, is still a relatively memorable time, and it stuck. Bonus if you demand time commitments from more than just one person.

We as humans, require variety in life. This shouldn't mean additional displays of codependency though, one hopes. It's a sign of maturity, knowing when to lean to your partner and when to stay firm. That is a fact provable across any random life you found, if you were to analyze it as a system, or other multi-aspect entity. Being a part of a team relationship, polyamorous, requires that independence option to be shown a few extra times in our romantic partnership.Our failsafe is the buffer of extra components, just like any system, working together, in this case, to ensure that there are other supports if time is really if the essence. 

Clothing, food, tv shows, even vehicles, are proof that we don't stop with just one option for any category. Honestly, we SHOULDN'T. Why short yourself at all, especially if growth or fulfilling instances, are met. Interpersonal relationships are a critical aspect in growing socially, and more than just children learn from keeping these cultivated and blooming. And working within arrays also helps to build other strengths and qualities. (Think solutions to only-child syndrome and creating rejection resiliency) So keep the training wheels. You can always mind-map if you veer too far outside of reasonable when it comes to limiting yourself. The point is, we should think ourselves pretty safe when concerned with getting enough of our time wish fufilled by another person, especially when all we need to do is ASK. 

But why break tradition, and NOT place all your relationship hopes with one person?? It's a much kinder fate to rely on numerous partners rather than just mono. You gain a better, stabilized foundation if the number is 3 or greater, giving way to less than just 2 did, guaranteed. Kind of like being on top of a tripod. This broadens the potential for experiences we have together as a romantic unit, creating a most cohesive one. Some issues are forced to deal with are to damaging to expect just one to bear. Putting the burden of emotional support on more than one person both eases that strain, but also automatically gives that partner additional support for his or herself, allowing for better care to be delivered back to you, after. You genuinely allowed for better friends and lovers to try and form.. it's perfect to team build, and that's what polyamory makes, is teams. We really do walk away the winner when we open our relationship up to additional people, and delegate and broaden the weight of peer and partnership support.